Regardless of where you live or how old you are, your life has a cast of characters. They go by different names. Friends. Family. Co-workers. People whose lives intersect your own. People with pain and hurt. Joy and sadness. People who love you and people you struggle to love.
The Ultimate Fiction Writer is at work again. An array of characters have been specifically chosen to intersect your life. Is there that character enlisted to be the voice of encouragement? Who is the character with the sarcastic wit? Do you find yourself hoping that one of the characters of your life gets inadvertently hit by a bus?
My guess is you have a character or two or three who have been cast as the villains. The troublemakers. The thorns in your side. (See bus comment above.) How often do you think that life would be so much better without them?
But would it? Would life be better without them? OK. Yes! Emphatic yes! But would you be better without them? What kind of person would you become if you had no one to point out the areas in your life that needed work?
There is no story without conflict and there is no change without struggle. So the question isn’t, “When do the troublemakers get taken out?” The question is, “When does the main character change because of the struggle?”
As you live out the epic saga of your life, take note of the characters that have been written into your story. They have been hand picked to share your stage. And when you face conflict today with someone from your cast, resist the urge to envision the bus. Maybe their part is to help you find areas of improvement. It isn’t their fault. Their just playing their part.
15/05/2012 at 1:46 pm Permalink
Ouch! “They have been hand-picked to share your stage.” That changes things, doesn’t it? Thanks, Rebecca!
15/05/2012 at 3:50 pm Permalink
I was once told by a mentor & sister in the Lord that people like you mention above are called sandpaper. God sends people into our lives to smooth the rough edges and yes it is uncomfortable and even hurts sometimes. But we all need it.
15/05/2012 at 8:34 pm Permalink
Rebecca: excellent writing and so true!
I have often thought those who annoy
me most share traits I dislike in myself. Which
forces me to look at myself…..not always enjoyable.
Susan
23/05/2012 at 9:08 am Permalink
Great way to look at it. Hey, put something in a story metaphor and I GET it! You could start a ministry to writers, putting the Christian life in terms we understand! 😉
It’s definitely those folks who are hard to love or who provide constant pain (poking, prodding, attacking) that we tend to want to write out of our story. We want to avoid them. And yet, as you point out, they’re the ones that provide the opportunity for growth. It’s easy to love people who present no conflict. No faith muscles required. You don’t have to ask God for extra patience or grace to handle them.
Well, now that I know you have this revelation, maybe I should try and provide some growth opportunities, Rebecca. “Hey! You call this a blog post? Try again, sucker!”
Hm. Naw, I’m not feelin’ it. I don’t think I’ve been cast as a “struggle to love me” character in your life. I play that role for others… like maybe my father-in-law or my husband. Ha!